Friday, 9 December 2011

Christmas Advent Magic - Day 9

I have posted a lot about Christmas but like a lot of people there has been occasions when I have lost the magic completely. The worst Christmas was the year we lost my younger brother just after his 39th birthday. It was the only year that I never put up a Christmas tree.
I think he would have understood that one but somehow I knew that he would not have understood subsequent years. He was all about living. In fact, he was not a great one for Christmas and pretty much had the same views as my Mum and Dad. However, he did smile at my enthusiasm and I can see see him grinning at me now as I decorate the house and put up my tree. Throughout the year, I think of him but, whenever I go into a church, I will maybe light a candle. It is good to sometimes have a special quiet moment.
I am aware that for anyone that has experienced loss, Christmas can be a difficult time. When you feel sad, it is terribly hard to watch people enjoying themselves and it seems to deepen that feeling of loss or despair. So especially for anyone that is feeling the loss of a loved one, here is a poem together with candles lit on my fireplace:

I will Light Candles this Christmas
by Howard Thurman

I will light Candles this Christmas;
Candles of joy despite all sadness,
Candles of hope where despair keeps watch,
Candles of courage for fears ever present,
Candles of peace for tempest-tossed days,
Candles of grace to ease heavy burdens,
Candles of love to inspire all my living,
Candles that will burn all the year long.

I wish you peaceful thoughts....


Carol said...

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think its something that we ever get over. But it's very good that you were able to find your Christmas spirit:) Sadly, some people never do. I am really enjoying your Advent Magic posts.

CherryPie said...

Beautiful :-)

I have been scheduled in to post at the vision & Verb sight on New Years Eve, my least favourite time of the year :-//

I think I have come up with a positive post... I am still working on the finer detail ;-)

forgetmenot said...

So very sad about your brother--a loss like that leaves a hole in your heart forever. Your poem is inspiring and well worth remembering, and certainly the way we should live our lives. Hugs, Mickie :)

Chrissy said...

Thank you all for your lovely comments. I wasn't sure about posting this one up. However, life's path does have it's sad moments and I think it is important to acknowledge them if and when you can. For some years I was unable to articulate them...Cherie, I wish you well with your posting.Coming up with something positive when it isn't such a positive time for you is difficult and I don't think I would like to do that. I will be sure to read it, the previous posts from you on Vision and Verb have been very thoughful :-)

CherryPie said...

I have run the draft post past Mr C and he thinks it works...

Would you like to do a guest post on Vision and Verb? Your post would fit in perfectly there :-)

CherryPie said...

I meant to say your ideas and thoughts, would fit perfectly there.

The subject of the post would be your choice :-)

Chrissy said...

Hi Cherie, I would love to ~ just let me know when and I will come up with something I am sure :-)

CherryPie said...

I will let Marcie who arranges the post scheduling know you would like to contribute :-)