I hope any younger readers don't think that I wish to be in any way depressing but it is a fact of life that at times people are ill and carers are still caring at any time of year. When I was younger my Christmas wishes were initially for that latest lego, a bit later on they were for some good Christmas celebrations and more recently that my loved ones are safe and have a good season. A few of you know that my Mum has Alzheimer's and was diagnosed some years ago. The winter season has always been the worst and the last couple of years have been very bad for her. The darker nights heighten the confusion and I think depression is combined with it, so much so that last year she really didn't want to be here any longer. Her sorrow was heartbreaking to watch. I wished so hard this year that she wouldn't have to go though that terrible time again and equally that my Dad, her carer would not have to face the pain of watching a loved one go through that together with undertaking all the daily chores. So as I look at all my old ornaments on the Christmas tree, I am smiling....
This one used to belong to them. Whilst they no longer decorate a tree, I am pleased to say that my fears have not materialised into fruition. Mum is out and about, shopping and visiting and enjoying some TV, even though she tells me it is all rubbish. I have watched her opening the Christmas cards and reading the rhymes out loud. I have no doubt that my Dad is being driven crazy and will probably be glad when Christmas is over. However, the contrast between this year and last year is startling and for that I am extremely thankful. For anyone battling illness right now or of course those people caring for them, I wish you the best possible time that you are able to have.
I am sure my readers will also understand this plug for the Alzheimer's charity who provide so much information and assistance throughout the year. Incidentally, it can be quite hard finding gifts for sufferers of Alzheimer's and my most successful one in recent years was a down filled body warmer......;)
5 comments:
Never feel like a party pooper just for saying what you feel! I read this and found it so moving and honest I was close to tears. I am so very happy that your mum is having a better time of things this year, having had a similar experience with my mum (not alzheimers but emphysema). Mum isn't with us any more but seeing her when she was bright and chirpy and a bit less confused was a huge lift to us all and you really reminded me of it. I am so glad to think of your mum out and about and enjoying things and your dad and how much of a lift that must give him. And you too. Have a lovely Christmas Chrissy, you all really deserve it xxx
So glad your Mother is having a better Holiday Season. It is so hard to watch your parents' health decline. Both of my parents are deceased, and it was very hard to basically do a "role reversal" where I assumed the duties of caretaker. It is all a part of the life cycle, like it or not. My thoughts are with you and your family through the Holiday Season. Mickie :)
she is right, tv is rubbish :p
glad to read that she is doing much better this year :)
I am glad your Mum is having a much better time this year. It is upsetting to see people with Alzheimer's, it is difficult for both the sufferer and the carer alike.
My Mum used to have a bauble just like that on her tree. I think she still has it but she doesn't use it any more.
Merry Christmas Chrissy.
After awhile, as an adult, we learn that Christmas isn't about being perfectly happy, or even perfectly healthy. It's about making the best of things, being with family, and loving them as best we can as they are and vice versa.
My best to you and your family.
PS. Thanks for the beauty of a card, and your complements on mine.
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